Posted by cricket on June 10, 2005, at 9:16:08
In reply to Re: Any ideas on how to work through csa *trigger* » Tamar, posted by pinkeye on June 9, 2005, at 19:39:52
Hi Pinkeye,
First of all Daisy really says it all far better than I could and she is much further along in the process than I am so I won't comment on any of that.
But I must say I don't really understand why your T wants you to cultivate anger and blame toward another person. I think it would be far better if she asked you to cultivate compassion towards yourself, both yourself as it is now and your little girl self. Perhaps that is where some of your longing for your ex-T comes from? He saw the world in terms of how we can be compassionate, not how we can blame each other.
As far as my CSA is concerned, although my T has known about it for 3 years, we really haven't gotten anywhere near it. Right now, we are working on building an alliance and until that's established there is no way I am going anywhere near that stuff.
Do you have a time limit on your therapy? Is there any reason why she seems to be wanting to rush into this when really you're just beginning to get a handle on thinking about your relationship with your father.
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