Posted by Tamar on May 27, 2005, at 13:39:32
In reply to confusion about therapy, posted by sunny10 on May 26, 2005, at 15:05:10
I used to feel something similar when I talked to my T about triggers and he said something about reminding myself that those feelings belong to the past. My first thought was, ‘Easy for you to say. But how exactly am I meant to do that?’
Other people have mentioned practice: I’d agree wholeheartedly. I find having some kind of a mantra helps a bit. If I lie awake worrying about stuff, I say (sometimes out loud): “I don’t need to think about this now. I can worry about it in the morning. Right now I’m going to think about soccer.” Or whatever. And I try very hard to believe myself. And I try to remember who won the Latvian soccer league in 1953. Well, actually, I don’t often think about soccer, but anything will do. I find trying to do number puzzles also helps. What’s 2 to the power of 13? Can I work it out? Zzzzz…
Also, I keep a notebook next to my bed and I sometimes write things in it to think about in the morning. I feel I don’t need to hold all the worries in my head if I can list them briefly for future consideration.
But I definitely find practice helps. And maybe it would be an idea to continue to go to therapy and talk about how your practice is going.
All this might not be much use to you, but I hope some of it helps. And here are some hugs for good measure:
(((((Sunny)))))
I hope you start to find solutions soon.
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