Posted by pinkeye on May 23, 2005, at 19:25:58
In reply to Re: Is anyone scared/terrified of their Ts? » pinkeye, posted by JenStar on May 23, 2005, at 19:03:23
He hasn't been less than professional or uncaring. I am 100 % positive it is my projection towards him.
Unfortunately for me, I realized my transference's nature (that it was lots about my dad) only after I terminated with him. Before that I thought it was jsut a romantic trasnference, and it really didn't have its roots anywhere. So I didn't work on things with him which I could have worked on if I knew. Only after I terminated (possibly triggered by the loss from termination) I began telling my current T all the feelings that I had towards my exT, and my growing up experiences towards my dad, and she helped me identify that a huge portion of my transference towards my exT is actually a projection from my dad.
BUt my exT stopped all correspondence with me after termination, so I won't be getting a reply and no closure. Taht is what I am trying to get a closure mostly by other means (babble, my current T). But it is very hard. I wish I could hear somethign from my exT, and that it would give me some good closure and healing. That might really help me move on.
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