Posted by Cous Cous on May 17, 2005, at 12:54:51
In reply to Re: Q for Dr. Bob-how have you coped with transference, posted by kitkat33 on October 22, 2003, at 13:12:33
KitKat -
She sounds quite arrogant and more concerned with HERSELF and HER work and HER time than with YOUR welfare. Rather than blaming YOU, it is HER job to help you work through and understand youre feelings. She is NOT doing her job.My T and I used to argue all the time. I would always shut down and would not feel as though I could be honest with her for a couple of months following these each of these episodes. I told her this on several occasions and told her that this method of communication is VERY ineffective with me.
I finally just terminated with her and, you know what... I feel SO much healthier without her!! She was VERY sad to lose me... she said that, and I actually believe it based on her body language and the things you notice that are not really within her conscious control. She always said she thought we worked well together. I didn't really feel that way.
Everyone said, "Oh, you have to find someone else. You can't go without a T." I haven't found someone else and I have no intention of doing so. I have such a bad taste in my mouth about therapy. I have no interest in ever engaging in it again. I also wish that I could go without meds, but I don't think that will ever happen.
Take care and good luck with however you choose to handle the situation,
Cous Cous
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