Posted by daisym on May 16, 2005, at 20:05:46
In reply to Re: sorry for my little rant, posted by rainbowbrite on May 16, 2005, at 19:12:47
I think you are wrong, Pinkeye. I think most people feel sadness, remorse, frustration, anger and helplessness at times, about themselves and their situations. It is just that Babble allows us the freedom to really express how bad we feel sometimes, how much guilt or self-blame we feel. It simply isn't allowed IRL. You say, "I feel so bad about X" and immediately everyone tells you, "don't feel bad. Look on the bright side..." OR they try to convince you that your guilt is unfounded and you eventually smile and nod your head and they feel better about making you feel better. But really, all you've done is stopped talking about how you really feel. We don't do that to each other here, at least not much.
Being overly sensitive might be part of the problem. But I think the people who gravitate towards Babble are in touch with their feelings and can articulate their inner thoughts more freely. Or maybe we just have a need to try and do this.
I don't think I can shrug my shoulders and honestly tell myself, "well, I was just a little girl. Wasn't my fault." Deep down inside I DO feel guilty and I wonder what part I had to play in the whole mess. The best thing about being able to say those things here is that some people nod their head "yes" and empathize with these feelings. I'm not alone. I don't have to intellectualize. I can just feel bad. (or sad or whatever) I feel the support and hugs and understanding. And I give back when I can. And not 'cause the other person is looking at me like "oh, God, what do I say now to make her all better?"
Babble doesn't insist that anyone feel all better. But we celebrate when someone does.
Aren't we lucky to have found each other??
poster:daisym
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