Posted by pinkeye on May 11, 2005, at 20:46:19
In reply to Re: Combination of male and female Ts » pinkeye, posted by Dinah on May 11, 2005, at 20:08:39
hmmm.. that is interesting to me. I never thought of men as being too emotional oriented. My father was much more logical than emotional, my ex T was the same way.
My husband is more emotional person, and I think I married him because he was not like my dad at all. I thought he was a simple person - but he also ended up being pretty complicated.
I guess lot of the reasons why I identified my ex T with my father was perhaps they were alike in some way.. both doctors, both atheists, both came from rich families themselves, both of them highly logical and highly society awareness and knew all philosophies. And actually even my ex T used to get angry quickly. They are both even interested very much into computers and gadgets. And they both retired from being doctors too early.
So I think that is why I kind of identified my ex T with my father. Now I realize how mistaken I had been.. my ex T was much much more a sensible person than my dad was. But I felt like telling my ex T to watch out for himself - that he had too many dangerous traits like my father. Of course I never told him.
My father used to tell how his mom never showed him too much affection and was never there for him. My ex T's mom was a very busy person as well, I used to wonder how much affection he would have received from his mom when he was a child. And I used to be concerned for him very much.
Now I realize it was all my own projections..
My husband is actually more emotional and couple of my male friends are.
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