Posted by gardenergirl on May 7, 2005, at 19:20:43
In reply to does every T bring up sex at some point?, posted by JenStar on May 7, 2005, at 17:47:16
> I'm curious about how many T's "force the topic" or ask about sex when you've been seeing them for a while. Does it always come up? If you don't want to talk about it, is that a topic for analysis in itself?
My T has brought up content from previous sessions related to sex. He actually brought up my fantasies once! Yiii! But of course I had already told them to him. He also once brought it up as an observation that I was avoiding talking about it. I had been talking about it previous sessions, and then we had a week or two off for some reason (I forget). And when we resumed, I didn't go back to it for a few weeks, and in the meantime found myself in another depressive episode. His theory was he had failed to make a critical interpretation before, and that may have made me deteriorate.
>I myself am not that comfortable talking about sex with even my friends (explicitly.) We're just not "Sex in the City" kind of gals when it comes to guy talk (although I loved that show and wasn't embarrassed to WATCH it with people, or anything!
Same with me. I almost never talk about sex, especially explicitly. I do have a friend I talk to about it. She helps me with all my naive questions, since I've always been kind of sheltered. Kind of like you would ask a big sister. ((((My honorary big sis!))))
>It's just when it comes to ME, I don't share those personal details easily.) So for me, it's not something I'd feel "right" talking to a T about - esp. questions about masturbation, fantasies, etc.
If you don't have any issues with sex, it's certainly not necessary to talk about it. And even if you do, you don't have to talk about it. But it can help. But boy, I still get embarrassed sometimes!
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