Posted by shrinking violet on April 6, 2005, at 19:54:18
In reply to nice day..., posted by thewrite1 on April 6, 2005, at 16:07:39
Oh, I've been through this same thing, many times.
I've learned a couple of things from these interactions with my T: 1) that I'm extremely sensitive, and I tend to take things personally and negatively, regardless of how innocently they were intended, 2) my first reaction to almost anything is anger, especially when I feel hurt, and I need to try not to react on the anger first (i.e. quitting, cancelling, etc) without giving myself time to calm down and 3) to ASK ASK ASK my T what she really meant, b/c 99.99999% of the time (ok maybe even 100%) I take what she says in totally the wrong way, and end up upset for nothing.
My T has said the similar things to your T in regards to isolation and lonliness, etc. I felt badly too, b/c I felt like my T was trying to push me off on other people, etc, and I took it too personally. I forget that, Once Upon A Time, I had many good close friends. I've just forgotten what that's like.
I urge you to talk to your T about this. Tell her how it made you feel, and ask her what she meant. I think you'll be surprised, and relieved, and learn a lot in the process. Don't let what was probably an innocent comment get in the way of your relationship with her, and your work together. Heaven knows I've done it more times than I'd like to remember.
Good luck.
SV
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