Posted by pinkeye on March 10, 2005, at 17:29:44
I have difficulty feeling emotionally attached to my husband. He is actually quite a normal person, except the fact that I don't see him as an authority figure.
My therapist keeps saying that I am trying to look for a father figure in the persons I get attracted to. And also since I look for a father figure, I also look for people who are romantically unavailable to me. She says I keep getting attracted to people who are essentially not available for me, and if one is available then I don't get attracted to them. She says just because my husband is available to me and is younger to me, I don't see him as attractive.
She says I keep longing for a romantic relationship with an authority figure, but also at the same time that this authority figure should be unavailable to me to satisfy the criteria of being attractive and she says I keep repeating the same pattern.
I think it is a Freud kind of stuff.. Does it make sense to any of you? I don't like Freud views too much. But I think lot of psychologists highly regard him. I don't know how to make sense of it all.
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