Posted by mair on March 9, 2005, at 18:44:24
In reply to Re: I'm sorry, Mair., posted by Dinah on March 9, 2005, at 17:14:30
It is pretty eerie how that happens with couples who've been together for a long time. I think his father felt that he had to keep himself alive to watch over his mother, because it was really pretty remarkable that he had managed to live as long as he did.
I think my husband is holding up pretty well, although it may be that he's just too busy right now to obsess about it. It was very draining and guilt provoking for him to try to manage their care from such a distance. I think in some ways, things will be easier for him now, although I heard him telling someone else that he had just gotten so accustomed to placing phone calls to his dad every couple of days - it seemed strange not doing that anymore.
He was so much of a better son to his parents than I was a daughter to my father when he was sick, or for that matter, than I am to my mother now. I hope he feels good about the way he stepped in to take care of them, even if at a distance.
Mair
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