Posted by alexandra_k on March 7, 2005, at 22:11:50
In reply to Re: :-) » alexandra_k, posted by pinkeye on March 7, 2005, at 21:53:58
> Does it matter if you open or close your eyes or you look straight or away?
I don't think it should. But some therapists get very wound up about it. That was why I am happy that he doesn't seem to mind. But who knows? I think my last t thought I'd come right in time so she didn't pressure me to start with. After seeing her for three months she started putting pressure on me about it. Seems to be a 'mark of progress' or something. A mark that they insist on...
> I think whatever you feel comfortable should be just fine.I hope so :-)
> CBT is actually not all that bad as you think it is.
Other people get a lot from it, I understand that.
>Once you realize that you are in control, it is pretty empowering, if you take it in that sense.
If you are able to derive that from it it must be very empowering, yes.
> Of course, therapists are also limited by what they have control over.. If they could, they could rewrite our past and then change things around us, but it is not possible.
I know that. No therapist of any orientation can do that... Except possibly narrative therapy ;-)
>That is why they are asking the only thing they have control over - us - to change to atleast make it bearable for us.
Sure.
But there are lots of different ways of doing that. CBT is one of them, but there are others too. CBT works well (very well indeed) for some people and I don't want to take that away from them. All I can say is that it is not suited to me.
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