Posted by pinkeye on February 25, 2005, at 21:17:12
In reply to Re: sorry guys » pinkeye, posted by alexandra_k on February 25, 2005, at 20:46:31
I understand the frustration of being fully blamed and asked to be fully responsible for the distress that you are in even when it is so obvious that you have had traumatic memories and that you are not fully in control of them.
Sometimes people don't understand that external circumstances and events do have a lot of influence in how you end up feeling. Thoughts can only control upto 60 - 70 % of how you feel. Rest of the feeling is just that - feeling. And our subconscious and emotional self is always more powerful than our logical self. Therapists sometimes seem to overlook that part. If we could all be made to feel perfectly well just by manipulating thoughts, we would all become equal to computers.But nevertheless, we do have the power to change our feelings to a large extent by manipulating our own thought patterns and taking some actions that will help alleviate little bit of suffering. Is it possible to take the good part out of what your CBT therapists say and apply it for now to relieve some distress for yourself? And leave the rest to be answered for a later time when you have more money at your disposal to go to a good therapist?
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> Traumatic memories.
> Ruminations.
> Frustration that my 'need' aren't being met.
> Because my nervous system is wired up to 'very reactive'...
> I do see how 'faulty thinking' can come into play sometimes.
> But not always, and not as a matter of definition.
> And to beat me over the head with it doesn't help me be receptive to the idea.
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