Posted by alexandra_k on February 25, 2005, at 18:15:11
In reply to And on a different note... Sex (graphic), posted by Dinah on February 25, 2005, at 16:08:01
Wow Dinah. I am impressed that you can talk about it with your t. That is really great! And great to have a male perspective too.
I am not suprised that you don't much like it if it hurts. Really. It would probably be stranger if you did like it, given that. But there are alternatives to penetration. I thought your t's suggestion there was pretty good.
>He said actual orgasm is soothing in itself to men. It was sort of amusing. Some of what he says is so very blunt, and I wonder if all guys feel that way or if he's more... ummmm... *goal oriented* than most.
I don't know anything really... But I always thought guys were.
> I remember I once told him that foreplay was even worse than intercourse, and I'd just rather get it over with. And he told me that most guys would find nothing wrong with that sentiment. And he sounded like he meant it.
I think thats right... Not that they don't like it, just that they don't need so very much of it as most women.
>I sort of quietly goggled at him, because my husband is just the opposite. We've never managed a quickie yet.
Wow. Bugger for you though ;-)
> But we had to stop whenever my friend got a steady girlfriend. For some odd reason, they minded. I guess they didn't understand nonsexual persons like myself.??? They minded??? How come?? Cause they didn't like him talking about sex with another female? Maybe afraid you guys might be comparing notes..
How do you mean nonsexual? I mean, I have to say I wouldn't be too fond of intercourse if it was painful. But what about all the other stuff you can do?? Has the pain of intercourse ruined that for you as well, or have you never had those kinds of desires? Sorry with all the questions. You don't have to answer if you don't want or if it is awkward or whatever, but I am interested.
> It's kind of nice to have a therapist I can have those talks with.Yeah. :-)
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