Posted by mair on February 19, 2005, at 6:31:12
In reply to Re: Follow up on not Trusting T. » Speaker, posted by Shortelise on February 18, 2005, at 23:42:58
i agree with the others; this stinks. My T would call it a total empathic failure - an instance where a T totally misunderstands what the client needs to feel cared for. It's not an issue of dependency - if your T thinks it is, he needs to explain that to you adequately. My T would definitely want me to point this out to her. She doesn't always get it when I first try to let her know that she's let me down in some way but she catches on pretty well if I persevere even a little, and since your relationship with him is important, you really have to get this sorted out.
It's all important grist for the mill. You process what you needed that you didn't get. Either he provides you an adequate explanation or he apologizes in a way which lets you know that he understands how he's hurt you.
Mair
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