Posted by TamaraJ on February 18, 2005, at 11:02:51
In reply to More Trouble Than It's Worth?, posted by Miss Honeychurch on February 18, 2005, at 10:18:22
If your T is willing to do this for you, then I think that is a wonderful thing and you should consider accepting the generous offer. I have the same fears as you do, and put off having exams for years and still avoid it, sometimes going 7 or more years between exams. A good OBGYN (or even a gp) will understand that some (probably a good many) women are extremely anxious and uneasy about the exam. If it is any consolation, you are not alone, and are perfectly normal (IMO), with this feeling.
One thing that has helped me when I have to go is taking a small amount of Xanax to help me relax before the exam. Actually, my old doctor, who knew I was extremely apprehensive about the exam the first time, gave me some and told me to take it before I came in. I thought it was so nice that the doctor understood and was willing to do something to ease my emotional discomfort. And, it helped. One time, I had my walkman with me, and listened to some good, soothing music to take my mind off of it.
The feelings you are nothing to be ashamed of. Many women go through the same thing. So, please don't be afraid to speak up, or have your T speak up for you. A good doctor will take the necessary steps to put you at ease (including spendng a time listening to your concerns and addressing your apprehensions).
Tamara
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