Posted by Tabitha on February 17, 2005, at 10:23:24
In reply to Emotional Abandonment, posted by daisym on February 17, 2005, at 0:45:03
My therapist has me write or talk through dialogs between critical parent, child, and adult. The distressing feelings usually come from the inner critic telling the child that she's not lovable, and if she were better, more lovable, this wouldn't have happened. That message "you're not lovable" seems to be the core of the distress, worse than the actual original feelings. We work on strengthening my adult self to intervene, talk back to the critic, and comfort the child.
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