Posted by sunny10 on February 14, 2005, at 14:58:57
In reply to Re: benefits of crying ?, posted by Susan47 on February 14, 2005, at 14:47:35
I, too, find that I have several "types" of crying.
For a little background, I'm the type that cries at the sentimental At&T commercials, anything too happy (sentimentally-like my heart is seizing suddenly and releasing just as suddenly), and then there's "Beaches" crying. (An emotionally evocative, beautiful movie about friendship that I have only seen once because I literally stopped breathing from the emotional crying halfway into it. I couldn't force myself to stop watching, but I will never watch it again.) Or crying when I see someone else being mistreated or just feeling poorly about themselves. I call this "empathy tears". Those, for me, are generally cleansing- kind of like I must have hit a stress level that I can no longer contain and all of the repressed energy is released.
And then there is my completely self-involved pity-party crying. Unless I am in therapy (or otherwise "working through something"), I usually find this type to be exhausting, emotionally draining, and derive no "clensing effect".
So, I guess what I'm saying is that crying can be both good and bad for me, depending on the why and when...
If I could only stop being so angry with my family and cry for my dad, I'd probably feel a lot better right now.... my heart is a huge heavy thumping thing in my chest right now. I could use a cleansing cry...
-sunny10
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