Posted by fallsfall on February 14, 2005, at 11:44:59
In reply to Glad you called. Sounds great, posted by gardenergirl on February 13, 2005, at 23:25:22
T: How are you?
Me: I'm doing really well. Friday I felt really good.
T: Yes, I got your phone message.
Me: I shoveled my walk when I got back from therapy. It was so beautiful outside!
T: Why do you think you felt so good?I didn't thank him again, maybe I should have. But he wasn't looking for anything for himself. When he asked why I felt so good, it seemed like he was asking what was important to me - not what had he done that was helpful. He wasn't fishing for a compliment.
Each member of my family growing up was very self-absorbed. And there have been times when he has pushed his own agenda - that seemed "normal" to me. But today he wasn't looking for anything for *himself*. It was all about me, and that feels strange, but good. Like I matter.
I'm glad I called him on Friday. Thanks for all of your encouragement.
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