Posted by mair on February 8, 2005, at 14:01:18
In reply to Re: Loving my Therapist, posted by Susan47 on February 8, 2005, at 9:59:00
P R O J E C T I O N ! ! ! ! !
I can't believe your ex-T thinks of you with derision. I can believe that you deride yourself for your obsession with him and that you attribute all of those negative thoughts and feelings to him.
I've done alot of work with my own T to try to learn to identify when I'm projecting. I know it's difficult because sometimes the negative opinions we're projecting just seem so reasonable. If I look at a set of circumstances as irrefutable evidence that I'm a total loser, for instance (the evidence is sometimes just so overwelming), then of course it seems very logical to me that my T would interpret that evidence in a way which would lead her to the same conclusion.
Mair
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