Posted by Dinah on February 3, 2005, at 16:47:00
In reply to the worst feeling.......just need to get it out, posted by rainbowbrite on February 3, 2005, at 13:28:16
Hmmmm...
My therapist and I were talking about something similar in our last session. I sometimes feel torn between feeling like I'm exhibiting shame about myself if I'm not open about certain things in my life, and feeling shamed by others sometimes if I do. So I end up acting as if I have a shameful secret.
His take on it was that the reaction was caused by the knowledge base of the other person, not anything to do with me. That if someone doesn't understand, it might make me feel shamed. But that had nothing to do with whether or not what I disclosed was at all shameful.
Can you just think of the reaction as being due to the limitations of the person you were speaking to? Not that you said anything wrong, but that they were unable to understand?
poster:Dinah
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