Posted by pinkeye on January 30, 2005, at 18:22:47
In reply to Re: Living a meaningful life opposed to a good one, posted by smokeymadison on January 30, 2005, at 16:15:50
> i totally agree! thanks for the insight. perfectionism is my main struggle. i want perfect grades, perfect papers, the perfect job, etc so bad that i can't be happy with anything less. and of course none of those can ever be perfect. my standards are just too high. what do you find meaningful? i think, for me, it is having good relationships with other people and having my actions be worthwhile ones ie they help others in some way, however small.
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> SMI have the same feeling too. Only relationships make my life meaningful - I feel good about other things, but the most meaning comes from relationships. But maybe it doesn't have to be from only personal relationships. Lot of people who fail in their personal lives, go on to create a meaningful social life - either helping others or being part of a community or social service etc or with friends, etc. Maybe any meaningful relationships will do to keep us from being depressed.
Also everything adds up. If we keep insisting on finding meaning in one area, and allowing ourselves to get depressed when it deson't work out in that area, we will never achieve happiness. Just like a pond fills with water only drop by drop, we have to find meaning only little by little.
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