Posted by just plain jane on January 22, 2005, at 1:09:34
In reply to I Think I'm Ready, Like It Or Not, posted by Susan47 on January 18, 2005, at 0:25:48
>I also realize now that I can get therapy WITHOUT having a special relationship with the therapist, as long as it's a useful one. It's the Useful bit, that's Important.
Ummmmmmmmmmmmm... yEaHHH...
So, I went to therapy today and we discussed the whole tranference / counter-transference thing, the "special relationship" perception and related subject matter. I've never had an experience of these with therapy. She reminded me that I'm weird (that's ok, guys, for me and mine), which we have discussed numerous times before regarding various subjects, in that I am not reverant of any people. She, and my psychiatrist, know that they are simply people to me. They are practicing their professions (well) and I am participating in the client capacity in those sessions.
Her reminder was of the fact that I'm weird because most clients do revere, look up to, place significance on, et cetera, their mental health providers, and i don't. It is a basic facet of my character which, both of them concur, is fine, just atypical. Good thing they concur it's fine, because it's their problem if they don't.
For me, therapy, as with most aspects of my life is something I am choosing to do. As a child I was taught, quite emphatically, to stand on my own two feet, learn to take care of myself, and on and on, but I was punished for behaving as an individual who had thoughts and wanted to discuss them. (be seen and not heard)
And I learned from experience with my family and their circle of friends that for me to truly trust them (or anyone) was impossible. They always violated my trust, I was an inconsequential, undesirable nuisance for them, simply by my existence.
So, being taught to be an independent individual and learning that trust was NOT something I should/could do, I grew to be the way I am... we are all equal, as in I am no more special or important than anyone else and noone is more important or special than me.
(i stink, therefore i am) lafin @ meNow, where was I?
She's a person with a reason for you to be there seeking her professional skills, it's her job, and I'll be danged if I don't believe she should be useful at it.
And you are the person with the reason to be seeking her professional skills, and I'll be danged if I don't believe it's foolish to waste time (or money) on someone who is not useful at it, for you.
Oh, yeah, so, YEAH, your therapist should be useful, most definitely!!!
Congrats!!!
(((Susan)))
never let 'em get over on ya.if I made enough sense here, I'll be danged
;))
just plain ramblin toward the point jane
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