Posted by littleone on January 20, 2005, at 23:13:58
In reply to Re: Taking Responsibility, posted by Daisym on January 20, 2005, at 22:36:43
It's really interesting that you've raised this right now.
In my last session, we were talking about how I was raised and I was kind of defending my folks and shooting down my T's comments.
Now I get really fuzzy here and probably have it half wrong, but he was saying something about how I was focusing on the blame aspect. I guess like I didn't want to accept it all because I'd then have to blame my folks for how I was raised.
He then started talking about responsibility and said that they should accept responsibility for the way they raised me. And for the life of me, I can't see how accepting responsbility and accepting blame are any different.
Mind you, I think I'm very confused here because why would they accept responsbility? I have no intention of confronting them any time soon (ever?). I can't make them accept their responsbility, I can only affect my own thoughts and actions.
Anyway, I know it is a different sort of example than your article, but the confusion over responsibilty vs blame sounds similar.
I had intended to raise this at our next session. If you like, I can share what he says. If you raise it with your T, I'd be interested in hearing his take on it.
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