Posted by alexandra_k on January 19, 2005, at 17:24:31
In reply to does therapist need good relationship to advise?, posted by Joslynn on January 19, 2005, at 14:20:18
Well, I would say that her ability to help you would depend on a number of things...
She may have some core beliefs about guys being bad or hurtful or she might think all marriages are a sham or whatever, who knows?
She may think that what happened with her and her x doesn't have to happen for everyone. She may think that some people make a decision to be with someone and that that can be the best thing for them, who knows?
And whatever she might really think she may be pretty good at putting that in the background and just helping you with what you have decided to do anyway.
Sometimes I find that t's experiences can be either helpful or hurtful. I have gone to drug and alchohol councellors who think that they have all the answers for me and my situation because they seem to beleive that they have been in exactly the same situation as me. Sometimes I find that it is more helpful to go to someone who freely admits that they don't know what it is like to be me, or to be in my situation.
I don't think we should hold t's personal experiences either against them or for them.
It is what they DO with the experiences they have had that is important.
Why not just give her a chance and see how it goes?
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