Posted by Susan47 on January 17, 2005, at 13:45:26
Well, now it's beginning to dawn on me, with the distance my therapist has imposed upon me, that transference involves making a person something they're not. So, I perceived CW as a form of my abusive father, and I saw in him traits which may not have existed. Hmm. Shite, this sounds really stiff. It's not what I mean. What I mean is, it felt like he was someone else, someone he probably wasn't/isn't. Hmm. Ideally someday I'd like to see CW as the person he really is, not the person I projected him to be, but I'm still somewhat stuck. I'm stuck, he shouldn't've imposed this upon me. Of course, I suppose he didn't really have much choice, seeing as I was Hounding him. Hmm. My desperation to be loved drove me to be unlovable. How does THAT happen?
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