Posted by Daisym on January 12, 2005, at 10:27:39
In reply to Re: Going against the trend here » Dinah, posted by mair on January 12, 2005, at 7:26:10
I've said something like this too...a month ago I was in a frantic state. I couldn't stop talking but so much of it was just frantic ranting and retelling of things I'd already said to him. He remained so composed and calm that I had to say something about his demeaner. He actually was surprised that I brought it up and said that he was overall a calm person and he preferred my rantings to withdrawing into a silent ball. But he felt I needed the calm presence to balance those frantic feelings. And he asked me if it would feel better if he got frantic with me. (Ah, no, but it might be entertaining?)
He was right, but on some level I think I wanted him to be rattled. I've only managed to do this twice in 18 months...and that was more a display of frustration with me (why CAN'T you just allow yourself to have what you so clearly need!).
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