Posted by Crazy_Charlie on January 11, 2005, at 7:16:45
In reply to Fell in love with a girl(My therapist)Anyone else?, posted by jonh kimble on January 11, 2005, at 3:01:26
Hello
This is actually a well known problem among therapists.. we even had several classes about it when I was studying clinical psychology at the university. Of course it is easy to fall in love with your therapist... because your therapist displayes a lot of the things (espescially depressed people, and other with similar problems)that you don't get in your daily life: warmth, understanding, closeness, trusting, love, empathy... you name it.
It's not necessarily bad that you fell in love with her, the bad thing is probably that it wont go anyway. But being in love is always a healthy thing, and if you fell in love with her, I'm certain you can fall in love with someone else too. You just have to let her go, and think of her being nice to you as a part of her profession and not her as a person as such.I am a clinical psychologist myself, and I know that I give a lot more with my patients than what I do at home. Simply because my patients NEEDS it, they come to me because they need empathy and love, thereby that is a part of my treatment. But as soon as I get to know that they develope strong feelings for me, I bring it up and we discuss it. I have never fallen in love with any of my patients, but I have warm and friendly feelings for all of them, and long time after they finish I still care about them.. even though I myself do not contact them.
What you feel is absolutely normal, and even healthy, but I understand that it is tough for you.
Good luck.
CC
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