Posted by fires on January 7, 2005, at 12:34:31
I read the following on the web: (sorry no source):
Here are four good definitions for codependency:
1)“An emotional, psychological, and behavioral condition that develops as a result of an individual’s prolonged exposure to, and practice of, a set of oppressive rules” (Robert Subby);
2)“A set of maladaptive, compulsive behaviors learned by family members to survive in a family experiencing great emotional pain” (The Johnson Institute);
3)“A stressful learned behavior associated with an unhealthy focus on the needs of others and/or attempting to take responsibility for the behavior of others” (Brian DesRoches);
4)"We begin tolerating abnormal, unhealthy, and inappropriate behaviors. Then we go one step further, we convince ourselves these behaviors are normal” (Melody Beattie).
I'm particularly curious if any Ts are "guilty" of number 4? My opinion: Yes! Beware!
Now entering my so. Calif. flood watch mode. Returning when rains subside.
poster:fires
thread:439005
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