Posted by terrics on December 31, 2004, at 16:12:47
In reply to I'm very close to going back to old T, posted by crushedout on December 21, 2004, at 21:33:08
Hi Crushed, You have a big decision. Try not to make it too quickly. How long have you been with the new T. Someone said to discuss this with your new T. Sounds like a very good idea. I remember when you were writing about old T. and 'mutual love?? affection?? attraction??'. Hope you do not mind me telling you of some things that went on with me. I left my 'beloved' T. for DBT. DBT therapists are rather strict, at least mine is. I am intimidated by her....she has extemely stong boundaries whereas the other one had almost no boundaries. Both Ts are intelligent. But, I have to say that my current T. is a better therapist because I am not intertwined in her stuff. Also, because I am borderline she really GETS me(meaning my problems and knowing how I really feel or don't feel). I was lucky in one way though. My old T. and I stayed friends. (I want more, but I am unsure of her feelings. She always sends double messages). She did kiss me on the mouth once but it was a peck. She knows I love her. She says 'I love you' however I think she means it platonically. The important thing I want to tell you is that if I had to make a choice between her friendship and my current treatment I would chose the latter. New T. actually realized I was not playing games when I wanted to...S She would not let me leave and went over the session time which she NEVER does. She insisted I call my pdoc while in her office. I felt protected. I am learning to function better in the world but am still very depressed. Probably because no one has found meds. that really work on borderlines...I think very much of BPD is chemical and right now I have to put up with the depression or something else. OOPS! Sorry I went too far
I really hope you find the right answer. Much luck. Terrics
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