Posted by Dinah on December 17, 2004, at 16:38:04
In reply to Re: It *is* a lot at once » Dinah, posted by Daisym on December 17, 2004, at 10:23:35
He is pretty amazing, isn't he?
To be honest, I might well find his actual presence distracting. And I do prefer to keep our relationship within the sacred portals of his office.
But the fact that he suggested it really changed how I think he thinks of me. I think. :) I don't *think* he'd have thought of that in relationship to most of his clients (who are almost entirely 12 week to one year clients).
He said today that he didn't know if he could make it, and asked if I would be disappointed if he couldn't. I answered that no, I wouldn't be disappointed. I don't think I could bear to discourage him from ever bending the therapeutic frame again by telling him that I prefer the therapeutic frame unbent. Because to be perfectly frank, I like feeling cared about by him more than I like feeling comfortable at the funeral.
Sick, huh?
At any rate, next week, after he doesn't show up, I'll probably discuss with him how much it meant to me, and how it made me believe many of the things he's tried to tell me for the very first time. I don't think I'll mention that I'm sort of glad that he didn't show up. But it could be a big step forward in trust for me. Unless of course he answers that he offers that to all his clients. lol.
I did ask him if I could call him after the funeral. Because my MIL's funeral is Monday and Tuesday will be my first opportunity to see him after the funeral. Given the emotional toll this funeral is likely to take, Tuesday seems like forever. If he were still at his old office, I'd probably hint broadly for a special Saturday session. But his office appears to shut down on non-traditional-workdays.
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