Posted by littleone on December 7, 2004, at 14:14:24
In reply to Re: Writing for T - I DID IT!!!!!!, posted by Skittles on December 7, 2004, at 0:44:43
I'm so happy for you Skittles. It can be so scary to hand over those secret thoughts.
The timing of your post is funny for me. I usually give my T written stuff every visit, but usually it is more thinking stuff than feeling stuff. This time I was completely miserable between sessions and wrote out a whole stack of feeling stuff. I kind of wrote it to him, but not for him, if that makes sense.
Usually when I hand my stuff over to him, I have to really separate myself from the writing of it. Like I have to completely blank out what's written there and imagine I'm giving him nothingness. I guess the feeling stuff I wrote was still a bit raw for me and I couldn't hand it over. Was really kicking myself afterwards.
Sorry to make this about me. What I meant to say was that if you rarely say anything of substance to your T, it would be a good idea to get into the habit of writing for her between every session. My T insists on it and I'm sure your T would find it immensely helpful. It gets a little easier to hand it over each time. The first couple of times are the worst.
It's also helpful in that if you don't write one session, it sends up a bit of a red flag to your T that maybe there's something there you're avoiding.
Whenever I don't write something, my T always says "Well that means we'll have to talk instead, doesn't it?". I really hate those sessions, so that's a big incentive to write.
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