Posted by Fallen4MyT on December 3, 2004, at 22:48:20
In reply to Re: Is there any point in discussing my binge spending » Fallen4MyT, posted by Dinah on December 3, 2004, at 21:22:11
I sneak buy now and then and am in HUGE credit card debt. Now that we are kind of poor I am learning how to not do that so often. I am glad you semi talked to T on it because now you MAY feel like you can move on and not stay frustrated with him on it...I hope
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> I suppose I've been colluding with him at not discussing it, because it's a very sore spot with me for a few reasons.
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> My mother was/is a spendthrift of enormous proportions, leading my father to work most of his life paying off her debt and not having much to retire on. I find myself doing the same secretive things she does, although I don't do the quasi-criminal things she used to do. Ok,they weren't quasi-criminal. They could have gotten her put in prison if my father hadn't covered for her, bailed her out, and if the other people involved had been inclined to pursue it criminally. My problem is not anywhere near her magnitude. I don't do unethical things to spend. But I do hide my spending. And I do spend money I don't have, running up credit card balances.
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> So... I did bring it up, but I did it by honestly saying that I didn't really want to talk about it.
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