Posted by Pfinstegg on December 2, 2004, at 20:51:17
In reply to Re: Pfinstegg? » Pfinstegg, posted by Aphrodite on December 2, 2004, at 19:51:03
I agree- it's so scary!. If we just talk about it, as adults, it doesn't seem to amount to much of anything. But if our therapists help us get in touch with these early parts, the feelings just get overwhelming and terrifying. At first, I thought I was getting even worse, because I just couldn't tolerate the feelings. But the T helps so much, little by little, sharing the feelings so they are a little more bearable.
He takes it very seriously- the leaving- and makes sure we talk about just how it feels, even though it's just the same stuff every time. About half the time, I think we both feel that we've worked on it enough for me to leave knowing he's still there, and that I'll be back. Those times, we just say a friendly goodbye. Other times, he intervenes more, saying (to the young me) "I am your doctor- I am here for you emotionally- not just in the room with you. We only interrupt our work temporarily- then we always begin again". I can see how hard he works to let this young part know that he knows leaving is heartbreaking for her. I appreciate that so much, and, per his instructions, try to comfort her by reminding her of his words and efforts- that really does help.
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