Posted by daisym on November 20, 2004, at 23:16:01
In reply to Re: Pfinstegg? Daisy? Others who know what I mean? » daisym, posted by Dinah on November 20, 2004, at 22:37:18
Makes total sense. I always feel sort of ridiculous trying to explain to other people "me, her, she and us."
I guess the question is what would your rational self get out of therapy? For me, the adult ego state has many things to deal with, not the least of which is my husband and his illness. The "kids" are dealing with old feelings and recovered memories. And we are all dealing with being alone and overwhelmed.
But you've always said your two states are the same age, just one is emotional and one rational. So, are there needs on both sides? if so, I think your therapist could learn to consult with the rational you...would she accept his advice? I'm thinking he might have to change his style some for her.
You told me once that I might have to learn to let my "girls" take turns. Can you do this?
I also wonder if this conversation didn't come up because your rational side might really need him for support right now. It gets exhausting thinking about the right thing to do and taking responsibility for so many things. You've got so much going on.
Finally, my therapist would tell you to stop reading those internet sites. He gets so outraged (it is cute) when I tell him what I've read that scares me or contradicts what we are doing. You can imagine how many times I've read about over-dependency and how bad this is. I go into "research mode" when I begin to get too attached and it frightens me.
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