Posted by 64bowtie on November 16, 2004, at 2:13:07
In reply to mental disrespect?, posted by Bent on November 15, 2004, at 7:50:25
Bent,
So sad for you that you had to be witness to this inappropriate RANT! Pat yourself on the back that nothing got outta hand; conflict without violence is always better than its alternatives.
Please don't beat yourself up for not somehow winning an arguement or perhaps standing your ground. The arguement was mostly inappropriate to begin with.
Please bear with me...
Basic undeniable premise: folks can't show appropriate respect for others of they are short on self-respect. Good parenting includes good examples of self-respect mixed with intellectually induced self-respect and other-respect.Then, and only then, may folks be grounded in repect, for themselves as well as others. Children are not born with a dose of respect. That's one of several useful things left out so we can have more room to learn nessecities for survival; to improvise, adapt, and overcome obstacles placed in our paths by time-and-tides of the planet. These missing attributes are also easily acquired given enough time. 20 years should do nicely.
Rod
PS: Dysfunction can be easily seen as a collection of bad, wasteful, destructive, maybe even criminal, habits we refuse to dump, update, or replace, with good workable habits. Denial (isn't just a river in Egypt) denial and indecision gang up on us to sabotage our any efforts to overcome our life of dysfunction. Also, with low self-respect, we see little purpose in changing from one failing life into another. We are petrified with the fear of loss of whatever we might have already. From birth, we avoid the new especially when its not recognized as a feel-good.
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