Posted by lifeworthliving on November 7, 2004, at 13:44:39
In reply to told her I need her but felt bad afterwards, posted by Froso on November 7, 2004, at 11:08:41
froso,
if it helps, please know that i've managed to endure a fairly intense dependency on my therapist and be better for it, i think. i thought i would go crazy thinking about her, etc. i was fortunate to have twice weekly therapy so i knew that i only had to "make it" another three or four days at the most. my attachement to her isn't so intense anymore but i still feel somewhat depserate if i think about life without her. my biggest fear has been not being able to find her if i need her. she's always been very thoughtful and respectful by giving me numbers (knowing i would never call?)so everything she has done is helpful to me. is your therapist willing to talk about this? i was always afraid i would scare mine (heck, it scared me!) and that i would lose so i wasn't always as honest as i could have been but i think she knows the intensity. i go once a week now and while it was hard at first because i missed her i know it doesn't mean i should still be going more often. i don't think i would go more often at thsi point if given the opportunity. and thats progressing because i used to think i would die if i had to live without her. now it's like i know i can live without her and i won't die, but i don't want to have to live without her. i guess it feels more reasonable to me now making it easier to live with myself. i like it much better here. whew. i bet you will be fine. much of what i've read indicates therapy is working when this happens?
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