Posted by 64bowtie on October 24, 2004, at 11:46:25
In reply to Re: (((Dinah))),Larry,Gardenergirl,AuntiMel » 64bowtie, posted by Larry Hoover on October 24, 2004, at 8:02:37
<< > Since beliefs are a substitute for re-thinking things over and over, the person starts being aware of so much more going on around them by being less dependent on beliefs for answers.
><<< Thanks for giving me slack with my mistake! The above thought is messy since the conclusion does not relate to the premise.
A belief is only a tool. I sorta pointed that out. What I left out is that, as you said in your response, old beliefs must be gleened for those that belong to us ourselves. Otherwise we get all twisted up, involved in paralyzing internal-conflictedness.
See how even a useful thought can be muddled by habit? I have a habit of talking in a sort of "short-hand" to my close friends. I sometimes come accross muddled when I feel my own internal pressures to get it right.
Otherwise, I see the potential for internal conflictedness everyday in public as parents wrastle their kids left and right, turning the kids into:
1. Potential mass murderers who revolt against the parents.
2. Potential little-robots, incapable of original thought.
3. Potential mid-aged OCD patients, still living with the parents that contibuted to the confusion which mostly sarted them into their state of OCD in the first place.Phobia means fear disorder (Greek). Before it becomes a fear disorder, thinking must be scrambled, making it also a thinking disorder; a cogniphobia; a fear of even thinking about wrath imposed by not doing the compulsive act. No one will choose OCD without instigation. Instigation begins at the "what-you-gotta-be-thinking-right-now" level. The wrath arrives and can be expected when evidence shows that we aren't thinking what we were expected to be thinking; an obligatory thinking injunction relived over and over and over and over.......
Beliefs do make our lives easier. Suspending (not erasing) all our beliefs allows us the elegance to take time sorting through beliefs for 1. ownership, and 2. usefulness, of any and all beliefs. In order to correct the toughts above, during this time of suspension, we become aware of much more going on around us.
This is a good "empowering" thing. Since our power is our ability to make a difference, our outcomes can now begin to match our (appropriate) dreams, once we really perceive whats going on around us. This is part of the goal of "Outcome Thinking", championed by my mentor David Peck.
I caution that ownership of beliefs is critical. Otherwise we are always subject to the will and capriciousness of the owner of the belief. When the belief conflicts with reality, whats-right-there-in-front-of-us, we then have cause to internalize the conflict or suffer the wrath of the belief's owner, even if only imagined.
So much for freedom. So much for liberty. So much for one-ness with ourselves.
As an adult, I choose not to succumb to such entrapment. I come to the table "enough". And, I am now "enough" to do the job of ferreting out what's best for me.
I am not unique. We all can find "enough", if we work at it, and get help in knowing what to look for.
Rod
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