Posted by Aphrodite on October 18, 2004, at 10:52:29
In reply to Not so ridiculous anymore, posted by Dinah on October 18, 2004, at 9:20:24
I think this is one of the scariest things about our situations. We patch together some kind of support system, the strongest of which is our therapists. Then we have Plans B and C. (OK, I'm worried, I only have Plan B, and it's not so hot.) Anyway, it seems that when it is strongly needed and called upon, it falls apart, and you realize how vulnerable you really are. It's kind of like putting a bunch of blue tarps on the roofs after a hurricane. It works for awhile, you're trying to get the resources to make better and more permanent repairs, and then another hurricane comes and rips down all those blue tarps you've carefully pieced together.
It seems to me, Dinah, that you need another blue tarp for now. I see nothing wrong with going to another therapist, and it seems like the just and right solution mainly for you but also for your T. In his current and understandable distraction, I'm sure he would like to know you're being taken care of. If you don't, that's just adding to his suffering not to mention yours. I say go wherever makes you must comfortable knowing that it is only temporary, and I am sure it will help shore you up.
Stay away from Admin, but keep posting and emailing. If you need to go to the hospital, you need to go. The family will be fine; that's why there are two of you to take care of your son. You could and would do it if your husband needed to be in the hospital. Of course, I would have all the same arguments and reservations as you regarding all of these decisions, but if you're not well, you can't take care of everyone else. I know you know this -- it's the old "put the oxygen mask on the mother first" routine -- but it doesn't hurt to have it repeated.
Please follow your intuition and take good, good care of yourself.
(((Dinah)))
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