Posted by shortelise on October 5, 2004, at 23:22:41
In reply to The question of termination, posted by lookdownfish on October 5, 2004, at 14:53:29
I have had to depend on my T to guide me as to when it was time to consider termination. I too brought it up often, and he would always say, not in so many words, No, Not Yet. Until last winter when, oops, it began to be time.
Why oh why do I want to stay in that dependant state? Er, make that THIS dependant state? It feels good to have a warm home for my heart in that room with him, a place where I am listened to, heard, and FELT. Felt both by me and by him. There is a world there that does not exist elsewhere.
ANyway, sorry, I tip off into that sadness without too much prompting.
How do you know when it's time to terminate? I think it's a decision you make with your T. Talk about it up one side and down the other. The biggest question I think is "Is there anything else I need to deal with?"
ShortE
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