Posted by shrinking violet on September 26, 2004, at 18:47:44
In reply to Do therapists lie?, posted by shrinking violet on September 24, 2004, at 19:30:44
Thanks everyone for your replies.
I'm not sure why I'm asking this now.....I don't have a specific reason or event. I guess it was triggered when I read a thread on this board about how someone's T told this client that it would be ok to contact her afterwards, etc, and then when the client wrote letters, the client later found them in her file unopened (sorry, I can't right off remember whose post it was!). My T has said that she hopes to hear from me, that if I'm "good to her" I'll write her and let her know how I'm doing, and maybe visit once in a while, etc. That was a small consolation that somehow I could keep her in my life some way after we terminate, but now I'm wondering if she really means it. And I'm worried that it might be something that eventually burns itself out.....either she won't respond so I'll stop writing, or she'll ask me to stop writing, or.....well, you get the idea. :-( My T means a lot to me, probably more as a person than as a T, and the thought of possibly never seeing her or hearing from her again is very painful.
And, I have always suspected that she has lied, once in particular earlier this year, although she denies it. Even if she did lie, it wasn't that huge of a deal given the circumstance, but I just wish she'd tell me the truth. I also keep thinking that she really is sick of working with me, that she was disappointed when I rescheduled with her for next week (after I cancelled the past couple of sessions) even though she says she isn't. I hate never knowing whether what someone says is actually true. I mean, how do you KNOW?
Anyway, thanks everyone.
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