Posted by Pfinstegg on September 20, 2004, at 0:54:57
In reply to Re: t's countertransference hurts » BigFish, posted by Pfinstegg on September 20, 2004, at 0:00:49
Well, I guess it's only fair to tell you what my T was doing, since you were honest enough to! I have csa and dissociated childhood parts. When I first began therapy, i really didn't know about those other parts, or exactly believe they were *real*. Whenever I would tell him something really personal and private-hard to tell- he would always ask, immediately, "what does the girl think about that?". It used to drive me crazy, because i didn't feel he was being empathic about what I was actually saying- and i didn't know what the girl thought, anyway. I complained, and after a while he began to validate me more and wait for the girl part to speak. This is working much better. For one thing, I now know how real that part is, and how much her feelings differ from mine. I also very much appreciate his patience and willingness to change his technique so as to help the adult me feel better understood. I hope you can tell your T how you feel about his sleepiness- he really should find a way to change that!
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