Posted by alexandra_k on September 16, 2004, at 19:45:11
In reply to T said I need to be loved, posted by Poet on September 16, 2004, at 17:40:37
That is beautiful. I remember my T used to say that I needed to learn how to be kind to myself. And of course, I needed (and still need) to come to see that I deserve kindness both from myself and others. I tend to berate myself for my stupidity and beat myself up and be harsh with myself in general - because that is what I deserve, right? But that project doesn't help me change, and it makes me feel bad, and see the world and others in a negative way, and it escalates the situation, and nobody deserves that - not even me.
I am trying to learn to be as kind to me as I am capable of being to others. I still have a lot to learn about kindness. Both to myself and others. But it is reassuring to think that everyone needs love and kindness. That that is not a unrealistic demand, or a need that one should be ashamed of - it is human nature.
Thanks for reminding me of this
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