Posted by DaisyM on September 11, 2004, at 1:20:41
In reply to Re: How to respond to this? » Susan47, posted by Klokka on September 11, 2004, at 0:08:59
Klokka,
I think this is a technique to try to get you to see that you aren't as terrible as you think you are...because when you make a list, it either isn't as bad or as long as you may envision it.
He also may have been trying to prove he can "take it" all from you. No matter what. It sounds like he has done this for you many times and deserves your trust.
I have had this experience when describing myself as "bad" or "flawed". He asked me to tell him why I was "bad" but I refused. (I was in a very regressed place so it was all little kid words -- like bad.) I didn't want to make him a list before he left for vacations, because, just as you said, people who discover your inner self often leave. I was already freaked out enough that he might not come back. He said we need to come back to this, but so far we haven't.
I think your therapist is trying to get you to think about how you really come across, vs. how you think you come across. And perhaps, see behaviors that could be changed.
If you look at it that way, it is a very productive question. (I don't find you annoying at all, btw.)
Hugs!
Daisy
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