Posted by Susan47 on September 10, 2004, at 23:23:20
In reply to My therapist terminated me by an email-what to do?, posted by alexis6 on September 10, 2004, at 21:08:38
This sounds so much like how my therapist treated me; although he didn't seem quite as cold and he didn't abruptly drop me, I felt he wanted to and he expressed some dissatisfaction with the way I handled myself; when he did terminate me, he told me my transference was too strong, adding "the way you are and the way I am..." I don't know what the he** he was talking about, can only guess, and I found it really hurtful too.
I wasn't the easiest client I know that, and something always told me I wasn't really safe with him, although I really really wanted to be.
If this guy terminated you the way he did and he can live with himself, he's a callous individual whom you're lucky to be away from. There are lots of people in the world who seem really benign from the outside, but if you seriously knew them you wouldn't like them or want to be around them. Your therapist sounds like one of those people and you're probably fortunate he didn't wait any longer before terminating you.
Personally, it sounds like he was have counter-transference problems and handled this very very poorly. But, therapists are human beings and they certainly have their foibles. I wish you to feel better soon and regain confidence in yourself; you didn't deserve this no matter what.
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