Posted by alexandra_k on September 9, 2004, at 18:50:22
In reply to I Loved my Therapist, posted by Susan47 on September 9, 2004, at 16:28:55
I know that it doesn't feel like transference, but that is what it is. The intimacy that we get in a therapy situation is a kind of intimacy that, if found in the 'real world' probably would be part of a sexual relationship, so it is probably quite natural to have those feelings for someone who you are so intimate with.
But then therapy is, in many respects, an unequal relationship. A good therapist should be able to put their own needs and desires aside for a time and be able to hold you emotionally. But this is a phenomenon that could not continue into a real world relationship.
You have the chance to work through some of your transference stuff. Doesn't it feel wonderful to feel in love, and that doesn't change whether it is transference or real love. I think that transference is a kind of real love, it is just a kind that could not be sustained in the real world. He would become more human to you with his own needs and desired, and he would become less appealing for it. Just enjoy the wonderful intimacy that you have. I have loved many a p-doc. I felt I was floating on air for a time. Enjoy.
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