Posted by Dinah on September 1, 2004, at 11:39:43
In reply to My therapist says I make him feel helpless, posted by Pantt on September 1, 2004, at 11:11:43
It just means you're challenging, that's all. All we interesting clients make our therapists feel helpless at times. It's part of our job. Just think if all they had were the slam dunk cases. They'd get bored silly.
So why do you think you're ending up talking about superficial things so much. And did you ask him why you're difficult? I was difficult to my therapist because... Well, there were many reasons. The easiest is that I'm stubborn as a mule and totally resistant to change. He figured out that the proper technique to dealing with that was to be agreeable and not to fight me. With the opposition removed, my stubbornness moves to the direction he wants it to move. The other was that he found it difficult to connect to me emotionally. I was attached to him, but it was so well hidden that he didn't have a clue and he was frustrated at my constant rejections of any offers of relationship.
A good therapist can overcome most obstacles, but you need to work with him to figure out how best to proceed. It was a long hard struggle, but my therapist and I eventually developed a good working alliance, although I still frustrate him a *lot*.
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