Posted by fallsfall on August 31, 2004, at 11:17:21
In reply to Commemerating One Year with T, posted by tinydancer on August 31, 2004, at 8:07:19
I used to bring cupcakes or donuts with the number of years written on them with frosting. Usually we would take that session and talk about how far we had come and where we wanted to go. Sometimes, though, there was something else going on and on those occasions we just skipped memory lane.
I have a new therapist now - I've been seeing him for 14 months. The time of our "anniversary" was an excruciating time in therapy. I had warned him that I would want to talk about progress, goals, diagnosis etc. But when the day came I was so angry at him and upset that the last thing I wanted to do was bake cupcakes. I didn't mention it and neither did he. I guess I'm a little sad that we didn't celebrate in some way.
There have been posts in the past about "presents" for therapists - you might want to look back at some of those. My therapist was uncertain the first year if she could accept a cupcake from me. But she decided that since I brought two (one for her, one for me), that it was a party, not a present. Just be aware that your therapist's boundaries might mean that she can't accept certain kinds of things - and that doesn't reflect on you at all, it reflects on her philosophy of therapy.
Congrats!
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