Posted by Pfinstegg on August 16, 2004, at 19:16:17
In reply to Great things about our Ts, posted by pegasus on August 15, 2004, at 16:27:49
The laughter really is important! Mine sometimes suddenly goes off into a real peal of laughter- and I often do at the same time- those are great.
Because I'm in analysis, lying down, feelings of intense remembered loneliness are one of the frequent themes. If it gets too unbearable, he'll say, " you know, we've got a *re-connection* chair right over there". Then I get up and sit in it, and have a chance to look at his kind, attentive face and eyes and beautiful hands- talk about them- he's able to tolerate, in fact welcomes, a lot of childlike commenting on every detail of his appearance- I think perhaps that helps the child part of me know better exactly who he is- and it definitely helps to fill in the well of loneliness.
I also really like it that he doesn't treat me as if I'm *sick* and he's *well*, although one could make a good case for that. He wants to be sure that he feels that we are equals in the work we are doing.
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