Posted by daisym on August 14, 2004, at 17:22:28
In reply to Re: TOV club: question for fist session back » gardenergirl, posted by fallsfall on August 14, 2004, at 14:14:02
I have two huge fears about my therapist leaving: One is that he isn't coming back at all, or if he does, that he will have decided to stop working with me (total abandonment, either way) and two, that "we" will be different when we start working again. That he will have changed the way he relates to me, drawing back and relating adult to adult and not allowing or meeting any childlike needs. I know why I have these fears and I know whose reality they are. My dad traveled a lot and then finally did move away with little or no contact for nearly 4 years. He left when I was barely more than a child and I was almost a woman and very much in charge of myself when we began to rebuild a relationship.
So for me, I would want to talk about my triggered off "dad" feelings. And since my therapy is based in large part on our relationship, I'm guessing he will want to talk about that too...and me missing him Seeing another doc while he was gone, especially one who made some strong psychological suggestions, as in your case, would be top of the list too. Because it would impact my relationship with my therapist.
Mostly I'm hoping I don't just let all of the feelings I'm containing out and completely fall apart. Hmmm...my therapist had me schedule 2 days in a row for when he comes back. Maybe he's anticipating a really long list? Or a complete melt down? Or both? *sigh*
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