Posted by shortelise on August 12, 2004, at 17:08:53
In reply to Re: Found something REALLY creepy, posted by Klokka on August 12, 2004, at 15:46:14
I'm sorry you ran into this on the net. It would have upset me too. BUT! Here's the really great thing- your T uses the resources at his disposal for assistance. He doesn't just sit in his own head, thinking there's nothing he doesn't know.
Many therapists consult others. It is the most normal thing to do. That he did not use a secure site, well, y'know, such is life... he made a mistake. Sounds like your T is a human being.I don't know what you read, and don't know how long it will be until you see your T again, but in the meantime, could you take a breath? This does not negate your good relationship with him. That relationship still exists, and has not changed. He is still there for you, he is still your T and still a strong support for you. That is all in place, right? No sense on throwing the baby out with the bathwater. I like your T, from what you wrote.
What I find so intriguing is that you will now be able to talk with your T about yourself from a different perspective - you know, from what he wrote, something more about what's going on is his mind regarding you. That could make for a big leap forward in your therapy, couldn't it?
Could you concentrate on doing the good things for yourself for a while? Walk, sing, write, do whatever makes you feel better. When my T goes on vacation can also be a vacation from the hard work I do in therapy. Ah...
You say this is "your fault". Is that fair. It just happened and why assign fault?
I send you lots of warm thoughts. I hope what I've written is ok, and that you can be very nice to yourself until you have resolved this with your therapist.ShortE
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